I don’t have a favourite song but I’d say “Bridge over troubled water” and “The sound of silence”
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The sound of silence is mine too
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I always felt shunned in high school because I like 'N Sync. I knew it wasn’t going to change though. I had a few people that accepted it and that’s all I needed.
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Psh…fine! 
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I’m very depressed and i have no idea why maybe it because of all the lies he told me over and over again. I don’t feel like myself I don’t what too anymore. I don’t eat as much . and things are going down form here my mind is not right. I’m truly ha happy woman at more but maybe it time to let go.
Do what you feel is best for you. Sometimes you have to focus on yourself, and do things for yourself. Especially if its gonna benefit you.
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I follow this posts about this ugly guy, your partner, already for a while. Started to answer to you several times but skipped it- until today… , let him and the depression go, they are related to each other… and, much more important: as long as you stick in this relationship (that isn’t giving you nothing but depression) you are not open to nothing/ nobody else. Time to free yourself.
To be alone will bring your power back to you, cause you will not longer waste it in him, face your demon, your anxiety- it can’t be as worse as this worthless feel he makes you feel, each and everyday.
And staying with him means, that you cannot see/get your luck - even if it knocks on your door… so be strong, trust in god and move on… right into a better future @hilaryfol
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@hilaryfol - you are depressed because you in a bad relationship, and you are suffering illness.
You will only start feeling better when you start making changes to improve the situation. Otherwise you will remain the same, in the same relationship, with the same lack of support, and the same pain and the same everything else.
Change is scary, it’s hard, and it can be painful, initially. But you need to think long term, and what is best for you.
I can tell you this much - doing nothing is not an option - if you want to feel better - you need to take action, no one else can do this, but you.
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@hilaryfol make difference between people and toxic people. You are in a toxic relationship. Even if someone is the cutest person in the world. You may be blind and you can’t see other behaviour. It’s toxic for you.
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Get out, Leave him
@hilaryfol My aunt had problems with her ex-husband, and they were together for years (at least more than 15 years). But he was such an asshole and made her feeling so bad. She decided to divorce because she’d better being alone than being with a bad person. This wasn’t an easy decision, but it was right.
Now, she is still in a divorced process but she feels relieved. She has the support of some friends not connected to her ex-husband. And she’s still meeting new people by doing activities (like horse course, drawing course etc).
If he doesn’t deserve you, try to let him go. You don’t need someone who is making your life like hell. You’re such a kind person, you deserve better. 
Edit: I don’t know the laws and your rights in your country but, even if you’re not ready to sever all contact with him, you can begin searching informations about this law stuff and how you can live without him (money, home issues etc).
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I think in your case maybe you have more control over it than you think or let yourself believe, not that you gave up
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Sometimes life throws rocks under your feet. Rocks and large boulders. And you can either:
- Sit, cry, pity youself, get nowhere and eventually die - which is unacceptable and you know it.
- Let somebody else (or something = medication) drag you through them and you’ll actually end up being farther than you’ve ever been before and more hurt than before. Your legs start to be weak, because you did not move by yourself for such a long time. Just falling deeper, waiting for somebody to take your hand and drag you.
- Or you can just start to walk. Somehow. You will trip, fall and hurt many times along the way and the rocks will seem to you like an endless mountain in the dark that cannot be overcome. You won’t even see the path, but you’ll walk nevertheless. And in time, since you’re walking and falling and getting up again and again, your legs start to get stronger, your muscles will start to work better. You will trip less and you won’t fall anymore. And in more time, you’ll start to see the trees and grass growing all around the rock path, suddenly you’ll see the light of the sun, not just the darkness. And you’ll start to see the beauty of it all so much, that you won’t even notice that you’re not walking and tripping and falling anymore - you’re running, fast like wind. The stones are always there but you’ll ignore them, take them as a part of your life. And they’ll seem so small now. It will be a long path, seemingly endless, but when you take it, it’s worth everything. Just little steps. And be proud of each and every one of them.
Hope you’ll take the third path. It’s long and hard, seems like endless, I know, I’ve been through it all. I tripped and fell and hurt so much more than I can count.
But it’s worth it! Nobody can do this but you Rory 
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@rorybourdon - +1 what @mish3lka said.
- Sounds like that GP was a monkey butt. CBT works for some, it didn’t work for me.
- You probably do need help - but so do we all!
- Moving on could be a good step - this is what I ended up doing, and I’m much better for it.
- NO doofbrain you didn’t want help BECAUSE you didn’t want medication or CBT - so don’t be a knob.
- If your brain had given up on you - you’d be in a brain dead coma…dummy!
- Yes, your destiny, as is all of ours - is to die - in the end, cos none of us can live forever! You did get that right, well done!
- Your body is just doing what your mind is telling your body. You feel out of breath cos you are not letting yourself breathe…you need to breathe…
- If your hands are swollen - stop knitting till your hands settle…there is only so much knitting you can do…unless you are @georkost…then, well…it’s just infinity I think.
- Gotta headache - breathe…and stop fangirl-staring at Rob’s face on screen…print it out instead
- Yes - just go with the flow - stop trying to find the rip, or struggling against the tide…just tread water…keep still for a while, figure out which way the water is flowing…then flow with it.
- You are not a selfish female canine - cos, the last pic I saw of you, you didn’t have a big slobbery wet tongue and fur - you just keep getting lost in the moment, instead of taking a step back to reassess the situation.
- You are like the squirrel from Ice Age - you go barrelling ahead chasing the dang nut…only to lose the nut…and then instead of thinking about the best way to catch the nut, you go chasing the nut again…
Moral of the story Rory McRoryFace - Stop chasing the nut, cos the nut will flow with you.
BTW - the squirrel is my fave character in Ice Age.
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Don’t let other people’s opinions get to you so much hun! That person didn’t prove nothing…all they proved was that they weren’t very helpful. That is it. It is all there is.
You feel like you are crammed in this little cupboard all squashed up, so squashed up your lungs are squashed too, so you can’t breath, and it’s dark, it’s almost claustrophobic like. Your muscles are all tense and tight, and everything just feels tired from being so tense all the time. Your headache is a symptom of this too.
Anxiety is making you retreat - you need to fight it by doing the opposite -
hold your head high, shoulders back - don’t slouch and creep around all hunched up
stretch out like a starfish instead of curling into a ball,
stare into the sky or straight ahead of you - instead of at the ground,
reach for the stars instead of the floor,
and deep breathing - lots of that - to invite life into your lungs.
You don’t have to do these all at once - pick one and do it for the day…everytime you find yourself doing a retreaty thing, do the opposite of that.
Also - Make snow angels. Cos I’ve never made one, and it looks like fun.
You are going to be OK.
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- I can’t see a whale - i think this is the wrong pic…I see a helicopter & a beautiful girl making snow angels. I would love to see a whale in the snow - cos I’ve NEVER seen that…I think that would even be newsworthy!
- You did that in NZ snow??? Isn’t our snow like trying to make snow angels in cement?
- I hope you did that for YOU, and that YOU enjoyed it - cos then if so, I love the pic!
- It’s OK to please people, but it’s even more OK to say NO too, even if it feels terrible at the time…you get used to it!
- You are an awesome human!
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You don’t need to make a monster of yourself, you’re a normal, pretty girl 
Love yourself, others already do love you 
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@rorybourdon I’ve always been preoccupied by my weight. When you finish school and stop doing sport at least 3hours weekly, you gain weight. That’s normal.
I used to compare myself to others. But the fact is we don’t have the same morphology. So our body don’t react the same way with diet things.
Have you seen a dietician? Because there are lots of types of diet. And maybe the one you’re doing is not good for you.
I think it’s important to practice sport too. It has a slimming effect on your body, and if you do it every week, it has a good effect on your thoughts too.
It helps a lot to feel better in your body and therefore in your selfesteem. (I hope it’s understandable)
The most important thing is to feel comfortable in your own body, then people can think what they want, you don’t have to focus on their opinion.
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I was bullied all through elementary school when I was a kid, and people have been and still continue to judge me based on my appearance. But most of the time, I try my best not to care what people think about me. I am my own person, I am myself no matter what anyone thinks or says about it. If people are that desperate to put you down, imagine the skeletons that must be in their closet. People just try to put others down" because they are ignorant, and unhappy with their own lives. As we will continue to stand strong, and above all, keep fighting until the end. With much love to everyone, don’t let people bring you down.
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