Hello @danni1317 and everyone here!
Calm down! You two go to the concert together and you shared a really nice photo… maybe it’s only your impression… everything will be fine soon! You’re strong enough to pass by all this… have faith in yourself and your capabilities! 
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I am my own worst enemy. And with my health issues at the moment I feel like I’m not doing everything I should be. The more I read on everything chaz had to do to keep his head straight, the more I realize I need to truly work on myself.
We did, but I just notice things and it worries me. I have always thought that when u love someone u want to be around them…especially if they are not well, u want to be there to comfort them. But that’s not how he is…then I had bought him a ring so he could have something to wear.(we had talked how it was unfair that the guy doesn’t get a engagement ring lol so I bought him a simple one) he wore it the whole time we were in california but when I saw him tonight he didn’t have it on😔 I know it’s silly but it still hurt
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None of us are ever doing all that we should be doing, don’t let yourself feel bad about that. You just gotta take one day at a time, and tackle one bit at a time. Have you talked to your fiance and told him what’s going on - maybe that’s the first thing you could tackle this week. Sometimes the expectations we set on our loved ones are unrealistic, and sometimes, they just don’t know that they are being dicks, and sometimes, you need to spell it out for them to get it!
And sometimes, you just need to have a break and have a kit-kat - so remember, to nurture your own soul as well. We get so caught up in our own dramas, we forget to look after our own selves!
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Well…yeah that’s true… you need a professional help to throw away your negative thoughts…
True…but there are different way to do this… 
Why don’t you ask him the reason he don’t wear it anymore?
Well, me myself don’t like these kind of things…i don’t want to wear something like that… 
my personal opinion… so maybe he doesn’t give the ring the importance you instead feel for it… 
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You have to find your onw way. I mean everybody is different so we need different treatment. Maybe you need go out more. Maybe you need special help… but one thing is true… it is your hand… you are the best person to stop this and create a new dani with or without help. I know it is hard to read… but first are you… so this is the first day you have to make Chester Proud. I think I don’t know your story… but I’m sure you are strong and you only need to find the first step… you have a family here to count on, we can talk whenever you want and of course you have to make us proud. So face the pain and throw it all away… . We love you:purple_heart:
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Aww soo true! Love your teachings @ironsoldier16 !!
@danni1317 you will be fine soon. Everything happens if you believe. Everything in this world exist cause of your thoughts. Think ill and you will be. Think strong and you will be 
It just needs patience and trust on what you think dear. Well sorry i won’t be able to help much for your fiance… i ain’t that old so maybe I won’t be able to give correct thought and advice 
They were soo lovely words @neeksnz very nice! 
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I know, I always put others first, I guess it’s a bad habit of mine. Sort of why I am in the mess I am now. Too busy trying to do everything for everyone else that I ignored my health and now I’m paying for it. Yet now I’m dealing with it on my own…im trying to take things one moment at a time💗
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Thank u for the kind words, I need all the help I can get, somehow my fellow soldiers here are so much more uplifting then the people in my life. I need to make Chester proud, and I have to fight off the darkness no matter how hard it is… more importantly I need to turn to you guys more! I know this is my safe haven I just have to remind myself of that
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I only bought the ring cuz he mentioned it. And we said it was his ring. He even wanted to make sure he wore it on the right hand , so that’s why I am confused …i don’t take mine off because it’s supposed to mean something. I can’t wear my original engagement ring because of where I work I’ll ruin it. But I bought a silicone band (pink and black) that I can wear all the time. I got him the same type so he could wear his at work too without worrying about ruining it. So I don’t know:roll_eyes:
I still love ur uplifting attitude! Talking to all of u here makes me wish I opened up more at the concert. I could have made new friends but I held back.
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Its okay. We all are here… always.
@merydiaz nice profile pic. I just noticed 
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It is not selfish to put yourself first. It is not bad to worry about your physical and mental health. It isn’t selfish to focus on your projects… I always put others first like you… but sometimes it is hard the way we leave ourselves… we all need help…
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You know, it could be something really simple, like he lost it, and is too ashamed to tell you, and is hoping he’ll find it before you notice…
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Hi, I’m sorry to hear about what is going on recently. What I can advise you to do is get professional help. I’m not sure if this will work for you or not but to do something that will help take the pain away will be useful. You are in control of everything going on around you. You are the best person to yourself and you know that all of the soldiers on here have got your back. We will always be here for you. 
Make Chester Proud!
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I know it that he didn’t have his ring on it be okay u have to stay storng and thing will get better no matter what u going through I’m here for u and I truly hope everything works out u you too. . Stay storng and take care of yourself. Make chester pould.
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Hey,
Did you go see a doctor to help with your health issue? Make sure you get yourself taken care of . I don’t want anything bad happening to you so please make sure you take care of yourself no excuses 
. And the darkness we can shake off together. just tell us what’s up and we have your back as for your boyfriend I would probably over think it like you seem to be. In my experience it’s usually over thinking so I’m going to label it as such until further notice. I hope everything is okay with him but I agree that you should let him know how you are feeling so you guys can talk it out. It will help you have better piece of mind if you just talk it out with him. I hope everything gets better for you. Make sure you let us know so we can help lift you up if you need it
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@danni1317 you said something about that you are your worst enemy. Have you talked to yourself before? I mean, sometimes all those thoughts and “bad” things are in our own minds because we are denying something to ourselves.
In my case, -IDK if you already have read “the last letter game” thread- In some of my last answers you can see that I was talking about depression, suicide and more things like that.
I have not been as active as before because of thoughts, recently I’ve talked to myself saying these words: “I don’t hate you, but I’m tired to be like I am now. I need to be someone new, a better version of me.”
Believe me, it could help you. You need to meet yourself. Maybe you are forgetting something in your past or maybe you’re waiting for something happened, IDK.
I can be sure of one thing:
We love you, even with our own problems, we know that you strong and a lovely person who can pick up itself for the ground. So @danni1317 rise and shine for yourself, you need it, your fiance need it, your son need it, we need it, your brother need it and Chester need it too.
As I told you when you logged in the first time, give time to the time. It takes some mouths, years, etc. Whatever it needs to end, I am with you, we are with you. But I want that you are with yourself. Ok? Try to smile everyday. 
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Sooo well written brother!! 
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