@danni1317 I would not have said it better 
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Yes, usually you want to. But there are times that you want a break. It’s like that with every long lasting marriage I know, including me and my husband. Everyone has his/her ups and downs and we need to love them no matter what.
For example, my husband gets these bursts of anger everytime when even a smallest thing goes wrong. At these moments he hates everything and everyone and curses very badly and I really hate it because every angry thing transferres on me, it makes me angry too. And sometimes it’s so serious I even think he hates me too and stopped loving me.
When the anger comes, at first, I try to stay calm and try to calm him down too. But sometimes he’s so persistent that it ends with me blowing up too 
and us having a fight. Both of us are really stubborn so sometimes we have “home silence” for hours. It’s horrible! But then we get through it together somehow and everything’s back to normal. Sometimes it takes too long to get through, but it’s completely normal in relationships.
We’re all people, we’re not perfect and you can’t expect of everyone that they’ll have a good mood every day. Sometimes it’s just like that. For me, the power of love is to endure the bad times and fight through, always together, even when quarreling.
Well I think talking is the best you can do in these kinds of situations. You’re caught in a circle of your own thoughts because you don’t know what he’s thinking. The only way out is to ask him and find out.
You know, maybe it’s the stupidest little reason. For example, my husband doesn’t like to wear anything other than his glasses. He agreed to the wedding ring, but I know it’s hard for him anyways. He takes it down when he needs to work manually, to keep it unscratched. But I think that he, as a man, consideres an engagement ring stupid - just because the tradition says, that man has to give an engagement ring to a woman. He’d not wear it at all 
Wedding ring so-so, but engagement ring definitely not.
Or maybe your fiancee just mentioned it as a thought, not as a desire to wear the ring. Maybe he wants to avoid stupid questions from colleagues at work. But he doesn’t want to tell you because he’s afraid it would make you sad. I think that, knowing about your mental problems, he doesn’t know how to approach you or how to handle you without bruising or breaking your soul, which makes him rather do or say nothing.
But you can’t know until you ask.
Just talk people! The basic thing in relationships is a good talk!
I hope it gets sorted out @danni1317
How’s your pain? Aren’t you ill, like some flu or something? Is it getting better? I think you should see a doctor about that. Hope you’re ok!
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@mishelka3 @ironsoldier16 you both have written so nicely. @danni1317 has got a lot of inspirators here. Now you will never be alone dear! 
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U are very right, but we are still working on the talking issue…he gives short answers, it’s like pulling teeth with him. And lately my health has me so drained… I found out that my IUD is embedded and is what’s causing all my pain. I also lost my medical insurance so I’ve been trying to find clinics to help but no luck… life is just throwing a lot of blows…a close friend I grew up with (kinda like a big sister)passed away unexpectedly. Another friend found out after a brief hospital stay that she is type 1 diabetic…and now another family member was diagnosed with stage 4 liver cancer! He’s only 41 and is one of the greatest people I know!! So with all of this, the new job coming up and now my health issues I hardly have any energy
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Man life just keeps throwing you crappy situations huh. I think 2017 has been a pretty sucky year for everyone. Does your fiance maybe prefer communicating another way? I hate talking, writing is way easier for me. Or maybe he’s distracted and not really realising your are trying to have a serious conversation? Again, maybe you just need to spell it out and say, look we need to have a conversation, when is a good time for us to talk…properly.
Failing that, I dunno, you need support right now, not more dramas… Is he the right person to give you that support right now? Do you both need a break, so that you can concentrate on getting yourself back to health and back on track and in a more positive mental frame of mind, so that you can then deal with your relationship.
It’s a tough situation.
Keep talking… Plenty of support and ideas here, sending some virtual hugs your way.
It’ll get better… Just gotta find you a light at the end of the tunnel!
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I am sorry. I couldn’t resist this name of thread. I changed it. 
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Lol that’s fine💗 I think Chester would prefer this more
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I have some ups and downs for a couple of days. I got reallygot down one day and i can’t get some of this mess out of my head. I try not think about. But sometimes it come back. So i go to work and put on a Fake smile . At work and hope for the best. It seems that more stress come my way the worst I get . I have don t know how to get out of this .
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I know it is easy to say but when you’re feeling that way try to writte all those feelings on paper. You will keep focus on that. I do the same thing but I put them on drawings 
@hilaryfol
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Nice work!
@hilaryfol if it helps any, I’m doing/feeling the exact same, and hoping it’ll soon pass. Have you got anything fun to look forward to coming up soon?? Doesn’t have to be huge
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So all my lovelys I just got home from the emergency room…still no better, they ran tests and came back with the same answer I already knew. But I have to call a specialist to get the procedure done via outpatient asap…so it is almost 5am here so I’ll keep everyone updated! Please cross ur fingers I get in today!!!
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I really hope everything works out for you. I’m so sorry you have to go through all of this on top of everything else. You are an amazing and strong person! Keep your chin up, okay? It will get better. 
I hope you get in today and everything is okay
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@danni1317 you changed the name! I like the new one very much! 
well done! 
Wish you can find a nice specialist that help you with the right cure… stay strong friend! you can do it and everythimg will go right!! 
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Sorry if I’m rude for asking this… but what happened to you? 
is it about health? Or physical?
Only thing i have looked forward to is my birthday that is coming up on Monday . I’ll happy and sad at the same time. Because I’ll home alone . And i hate to say it but yet again I have get my own cake . So it going to be sad but i got to say storng and make chester pould.
hopefully things do work out today!
@danni1317 I truly hope u feel better and that everything gose well with everything. I keep u in my Players and my heart. Stay storng I’m here for u. Everything will get better soon. My god bless u
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Well HB for Monday, and make sure it’s a gorgeous cake. You got some peeps at work your can share the rest of the cake with the next day? That’s my favourite part of lonely birthdays… Bringing in the cake and then watching my colleagues annihilate it! But then my colleagues are all men with bottomless stomachs… It’s all very unladylike, which is what I think makes me laugh.
@danni1317 thinking of you!!
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What a nice thread full of support and love - you are just great family 
Heavy plays on radio while I type this-makes me feel like saying:
Holding on soldiers!! Keep staying shoulder by shoulder, one for the other- happy I am a part of it and have you guys in my back too - to share love and tears 
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Sure @theearlywalker So glad to be part of this.
Well @danni1317 how are you feeling now? Are you better friend? Hope you are curing
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