Every person that comes along is welcome and is important
People share delicate and emotional experiences because everyone here is receptive to it to differing degrees
Everyone has some contribution to make no matter how small or how large
And think about what an inspiration to other kids and people you would be if you surpassed the troubles you’re faced with
Think about how great it would be if you were the one encouraging someone on here under your circumstances, your experience would benefit that person and anyone else who takes a moment to hear about it
Brighter days are ahead Xavier!
Ps my middle name is javier so there’s that small connection 
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You’re not weak. Everyone grieves differently. I also wasn’t trying to say that anything I’ve gone through this year is any more or less severe than what you have gone through. I simply wanted to be honest and open to you so that you would do the same or at least see that I really mean it when I say “I care about you.” We’re a community here. We care about each other. You’re important because, frankly, I feel like one more person in this community is one more person willing to care about someone else, care about peace and love and compassion. You are one more person bringing hope in this world. Even if you don’t feel hopeful right now, that’s why we have this community, to pick each other back up.
“If I cannot break your fall
I’ll pick you up right off the ground
If you felt invisible, I won’t let you feel that now”
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I’m sorry if I came across as bitter or angry. As you can see my mind likes to twist everything in such a negative way. I appreciate your honesty and sharing your experiences with me. I didn’t mean to come across as a cold person. I guess this is probably grief messing with my brain right now. If I could, I’d give you a hug right now. I’m glad that you’re somebody that does care about me
Btw I’m actually surprised you didn’t say that I was “one more light” to this community since you said how I’m one more person to spread compassion and love lol Or maybe you’re trying to avoid any puns. Idk. I hope things get better for you. Thank you for reaching out to me.
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At 2 and 4 maybe it would help to not listen to linkin park 24/7 im stuck in a cycle of rumination what doesnt kill us makes us stronger then what kills us makes us weaker?
You didn’t. I just wanted to make sure my intentions were clear. I’d give you a hug, too. 
And, yeah, I’m trying to avoid the cliches that a lot of people have been using with LP’s lyrics to help each other cheer up, but the lyrics I have left for you, I left them there to remind you of the strength and messages you can find in these songs we all love and hold dear. 
Thanks for the well-wishes. I hope things start looking up for you, as well. Know you’ll always have a friend in these forums if you need anyone to vent to. 
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Is there anyway I can contact you outside of the forum? I would love to stay contact with you if that’s alright with you
All of us wanna help you. You’re not crazy at all,Okay? I want you to cherish some good things you remember about Chester by watching one of the videos that have funny moments, okay? And I want you to know you have people here at LPU you can talk to. And I don’t blame you for feeling upset about everything going on. All of us were as upset as you are that he died. Myself included. I am having a tough time recovering from his death as well. Remember, all of us feel overwhelmed sometimes, but things pass.
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Hey
My brother passed in the same way , exactly 3 years befor Chester . Even the same time of day.
Im from the UK so Chesters news didn’t brake untill the evening.
I was just wanting to be alone , its the first year I didn’t tell anyone it was coming up and I wanted just private time with my griefe.
When the news broke on facebook , The shock was unreal , but also I understood that it happens in just that one second. suddenly you get told this!!! wtf
I send my thoughts and love to Chester , His family , friends and band.
Remember you have to get through this too. There is no right or wrong way, I know theres also nothing I can say at this time.
I hate the aniversarys if i’m honest. Each yeah I know it’s coming and the fog dosen’t leave me.
To me , every time I get to 5,6 or 7 . I know 1-4 is coming right back back.
I don;t really know why i’m posting , I just had too… somthing that happens is a fear of people and an over worry . its hard to think every one is just ok . so you with draw after and every time you face out again it just all comes flooding back .
But with each pass you learn to ride the wave of griefe , it may sound weird , but it never go’s away but it dose get easier to ride the wave. and the connection with whos passed will happen again
We love linking park and Chester and it helped us through so much.
much love
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I think I’m still in stage 2. Linkin Park saved me. So to be on this post talking about grief is a good place for me to be. Minnesota had a candlelight memorial last night. I have come to grips w him being gone, but I do still cry. I have an awful disease that will some day beat me. But the music urges me to fight on. I only wish I could have told them that. 
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You are awesome
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Hey, I guess we feel the same. But at the end of the day we all have each other. You have me, I have you. You’re a strong person. Keep going!
Love, soldier.
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Aww, thanks!!
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At stage 6, but then at times end up back at 2 and 3. It’s like repetition at this point 
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Beautiful. I couldn’t have said it better myself.
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Wow! What a great post. Just for the record, you are not alone on this one. I still will always mourn Chester’s loss no matter what happens. When he died, I felt like I was reliving a cross between the day the Challenger Space Shuttle blew up, and when 9/11 happened. But that is another story. A friend of mine from school gave me some good advice. Cherish that time I got to finally meet all six members, and hugged him during the 2014 Meet and Greet in Camden NJ. Which is one of the best moments I am gonna remember. His smile, kindness, energy, voice, and sense of humor are all the things I loved about him. Both my sister and I got to meet them, and I am greatful every day for that.
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You’ve been lucky!
I had been dreaming of that like since I was 12. I was like yeah, once I’m 20 I’m going. But, yeah. Some things can’t happen, I guess.
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In the last 2 weeks i was at 7 but heard LP yesterday 2 times in Car-Radio. Now im at 4 and sometimes 5. Its hard but the Soldiers are so helpful among themselves.
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Thank you. It’s been a tough walk lately. I wish I could have told him
that. Thank you for keeping him in the light in the lives he saved.