@LP13413 @anna834 I’d agree with you, also happy for her and their family. Wonder what @framos1792 and @theearlywalker are mixed about? Interesting to hear your reasons. Anyway, it is extremely difficult to overcome suicide of a loved one. It is not a wound you ever heal from. You will always have a unbelievably deep sense of loss, guilt and above all else confusion. It changes you forever. You’ll never be the same person you were before that moment in time. Of course, people still have to live their lives and find a way to move on. LP are and will try to do that, as will Chester’s family. I would conclude Talinda is doing what’s best for her family and the message shows she is respectful of her past relationship. Many would turn to hatred and disdain overtime. However, I fully believe in the sentiment that when you’re depressed you don’t control your thoughts, your thoughts control you. Nothing is ever promised to you and never truly belonged to you. Just be grateful of what you had and appreciate that you once were lucky enough to know them.
I think Talinda needed to rely on someone to keep going with her life. I’m sure she has not forgotten Chester and her love for him, it’s just difficult to live alone and look after 2 or 3 children at the same time after this tragedy.
Having someone new in her life (even if the love is not as deep as the one she had with Chester) is maybe part of the recovery process she needs to do. I’m happy for her and hope it will help her to feel better.
Lol gotta downplay the importance 
Yyyyeah that’s what was on my mind tbh
The freedom of movement part 
Oh we’ve always known that 
just kinda the status quo 
Lol ouh a little snap back 
You will be proud to know I hate that man with a passion for certain stances 
ok maybe most stances…
the increase gun violence is a societal consequence of how our lives have become engulfed with certain aspects of life in my opinion, people are too desensitized…destabilized…detached…among other things… can’t knowingly blame a political position for that though the response is sorely weak,
It’s not easy but much more could be done to prevent these instances…granted I’m more reasonable than most who just view it as black and white…
The discrimination is the part that’s intolerable to me just because of the backward ass regression everyone fell into with just one man spewing hate
It’s hitler all over again blaming certain portions of the population 
People get too entrenched on one side or the other to reasonably open their eyes to the fact so yeah
Anyway, just my opinions-beyond that all I can do is live my life how I see fit given the situations presented to me
Ehmmmm… these are purely my own opinions… based on my own feelings soooo if me going against anyone’s feelings bothers them then please you don’t have to read idk how touchy people are about it so yeah
It goes against my own feelings on marriage to begin with
Say it’s a social construct etc etc but it’s a commitment you make to someone to see things out, yeah that commitment and binding literally ended when they part but it doesn’t die off so easily nor so quickly, everyone’s different but it takes time to grieve and process and just to rebuild yourself(takes longer than this allotted time in my opinion so it feels like almost a crutch)
I know that commitment isn’t dead, but it’s hard for me to wrap my head around someone being ok jumping into something so seemingly quickly-if nothing more than just it being so soon for an engagement
Even then I get it, you fall for someone quickly, there’s times you just know, I’m fine with that but it feels rushed
As to Her needing help from a man, she doesn’t need it…she’s better off than most single mothers and children in that she has comforts not having to work 9to 5 if she don’t want to, the kids have caretakers I can imagine, it’s within reach for that family so I can’t reconcile it that way when there’s moms busting their a’s for their kids in our daily lives that go unnoticed
Mostly it’s just that I feel Chester gave his all, I feel that these commitments played a large part in his decisions always, I won’t say more to it than that just…I feel that dude deserves more respect I guess…he was honorable and a mans man through and through so yeah
I know it’s different too but personally it appealed to me how another guy (dog the bounty hunter lol) handled this when his wife passed recently
She told him he had to move on etc and be happy and that we’re humans and that it’s normal
Agreed
But I liked how he came out saying to her and in public that if the time ever came that he felt it acceptable to himself to find another partner then he would be open to it but wouldn’t marry again, it would have to be a simpler bond, a confidant or something
It’s a subtle difference but idk it’s more appeasing to me
In simple terms, maybe I guess I just view it in the lens of a romantic
All that was reasons why I’m iffy on it, on the other side of the coin obviously I’m happy for her in that she’s doing well, that she isn’t debilitated by all that happened- not liking to have seen her get engaged so soon don’t mean I’d want to see her hurting or struggling-that’s totally different
I just think this could’ve been given more time to progress
They’re at an age where things don’t need to be so rushed, they’ve lived, they’re not infatuated teens
Anyway…yeah…take what you will from that
Thanks for the advice!
I didn’t scare you enough 
I’ve got 2 passports so I’m ok in that sense. Lol
You talk a lot of sense. Life has become almost automatic and we’ve lost a lot of our humanity in the process. I know Americans love the right to “bear arms” 
but it seems insane to allow a free for all when there is obvious mental instability on the rise.
Some people also feel that Trump’s attitude fuels the inane supremacy and is making matters worse. As you say, it’s intolerable! We will never evolve for the better if this continues. In fact, we are devolving.
So proud! I sense that most Americans feel that way, unless you’re in weirdo states that wish they were still living in 1776! 
Interesting to hear your views on this too, thanks. In the above regard, I do feel loyalty is important and marriage is a bond that should not break so easily. Saying that, divorce statistics prove otherwise and maybe we’re just too old school to still believe in this love lasts BS 
The grieving process won’t end upon a second marriage. If that’s what anyone hopes they are in for some messed up shit. By the way, Dog is awesome and so sad to hear about Beth. I can’t believe it, would have always thought he’d go way before her. But this just proves life is unpredictable and short. Don’t ever think anything belongs to you or is promised. Be prepared for loss and appreciate everyone you love!
That is completely true. Nobody else can truly help you, not all the time, and relying on others for support constantly only weakens your own being. I think if anyone is going to live off Chester’s royalties it’s not bad for that person to have been a firefighter. I also guess the fatherly figure is important from an emotional pov for the children and that gap will hopefully be filled by a good guy, which I’m sure Chester would want. It is unfair on them and they deserve something positive in their lives and long-term support and love.
I hope it works out for the family. Whatever happens Chester will never be forgotten regardless.
Anyways, @framos1792 nice to have an intellectual conversation for a change 
Care to loan me one?
How about no?
You can have the alienwaaaaare? Free of bsods 
Jk still have to go see what you’re up to on that end haha
I don’t want the alienware. lol
Ehmmmm…I know it’s not the best of ideas but I kinda don’t “mind” them…I mean… I like them in a sense and think then being 100% outlawed wouldn’t be cool either obviously there needs to be much better control but reasonable…which goes to the point-it’s not completely a free for all here and in reality I think it’s as easy anywhere to get a gun if you have bad intentions
It’s hard to break from the environment you grew up in and people can’t swallow sitting across one another to discuss anything reasonably… that stuck with me from a guest speaker(an author I can’t remember name haha) if you want to actually progress then don’t be afraid to sit with someone from across the board and have a coffee, it’s the only way anyone will ever see the similarities
i come from Mexican heritage and well we get plenty of flak for it lol I grew up around both sides, if you’re not so dense that you actually pay attention-the values from both sides legitimately are the exact same and so are the flaws lol there’s too much pride on both sides to see it though
Amen… same as I was hinting at on the what are you doing thread
I’ve got moms mom in hospital in mex (not long), dad’s dad in hospital here (he’ll be fine), and yesterday was a memorial for a guy I was working for who took his life a few weeks ago…yesterday I guess those things were having me think a lot about that that last guy especially…Again thought a lot about Chaz-maybe also why I had stronger opinions of disappointment from talinda
Yeah agreed
Right?! see…I’m not all idiot
You’re definitely not- and I really appreciate that you go with your feelings on that- I’m not far away from yours in that case - however- it is like it is- the whole world is happy- then let’s move on now…
Nah, you’re far from, hence why we all demanded you be allowed back on the forum after your little “timeout” 
It’s always refreshing to hear from you! 
Ah, all the serious chat is in “what are you doing” thread then? I’m missing out. I’m all serious and dark
You see there? That’s your problem. I’ve had this chat with Americans before. I don’t believe guns keep you safe. Nor knives (as rife in UK). If anything you are more likely to be involved in violence if you have a weapon. Sure, you can protect yourself against someone with a weapon. But, wait a minute, don’t we have some trained workforce to do that for us? Er, I guess not. You can’t even trust your own law enforcement. Welcome to the future.
Exactly. It doesn’t matter if you all believe/do/think differently to each other. You are still human. Surely that’s one fucking thing you have in common? I would like to think we will progress as a race and some of these “old-world views” will fade away. Maybe then we will build a better future where everyone can belong.
It’s interesting to hear that especially given the so-called “wall” that will apparently solve everything. Yeah, let’s cut each other off, that’ll work. Pride is a dangerous thing.
Family is important especially grandparents. My dad was only recently in hospital and it was stressful for everyone so I know what it’s like. Lots of funerals here too, and I was at the cemetery only yesterday. I feel like all these suicides, all these illnesses, everything is difficult to overcome and accept. Yet, it’s important that we focus on today and the here and now. The past/future we can’t control. It’s easy to become distracted by things that really don’t matter in the end. I’m trying more and more to value my present and everything I am. In fact all my notebooks at work have the words “I AM!” scrawled across the top from Faint. Love that song…
I am
A little bit of loneliness
A little bit of disregard
Handful of complaints but
I can’t help the fact
That everyone can see these scars.
If you need a reason to smile.
I’ve absolutely had it with squirrels. There’s one that keeps on breaking into our kitchen to steal and eat shit. My mum won’t let me kill it.
Really? Do they get into the kitchen? Not much squirrels here rn but they were in another state when i was kid. We used to feed them biscuits every morning.
Thanks for the reminder
It was a positive point 
I think we have very similar views about this situation. Honestly, I was saddened yet a little glad when I found out the news and have been thinking about it a lot. I’m glad she found someone but I too felt like the engagement was too soon - and I understand “too soon” is subjective and she’s entitled to do what she wants. Plus the fact that she decided to announce it during or right before Suicide Prevention week rubs me the wrong way. Although I do give her props for being so resilient, active with mental health support and going out of her way to educate herself and others. However, if I were in her situation I just don’t think I’d be so quick to remarry 2 years after being with someone for about 15 years especially after their sudden death if I truly loved them. I’d need more than two years before I even think of dating again - but this is coming from someone who is quite sensitive, romantic and in no rush to marry or get romantically involved with someone. It’s safe to say she probably felt lonely and doesn’t want to raise all those kids alone who need a father figure. She looks stunning I’m sure there were several men trying to get with her. I still think it’s too soon though but hey it’s her life. It is what it is. Glad I’m not the only one who feels this way.