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#1047

Well, I’m about to go to bed, but wanted to share a moment. I had a super awesome day cos I got to tell off one of our vendors - I love doing that, it makes me happy.
Then I got home, and then I found out my best friend M has been in hospital for the last 2 weeks critically ill, with a tumour that they are going to biopsy on Thursday. And then we have to wait to find out what it is.
And I had no fkn idea. And our stupid friend J who lives up there and has known - didn’t even bother to let me know. I only found out through M’s partner today - and I feel so sorry for her, cos she has to go through this sort of alone, cos J is a selfish tosspot.
She has been so worried…and I could have been there with her to support her and M. But I don’t blame her for not telling me - she has enough to do.
But J - I am going to kill him with my bare hands.
Anyhoo - I can’t even go up there now - I could have anytime up until today. But now I’ve got workshops and I’m travelling in the weekend, and then I’m back and then I’m travelling again…and I would give anything for this to be last week so I could stuff everything and just go up there.
But I can’t - so it’ll have to wait till next week. Which is dumb.
And now all I can do is hope…and I hate hoping…grrrr.

So, I’m pretty upset about the whole thing, and feeling useless. But M said he doesn’t need me up there. And his GF reckons she’s OK. So I just have to trust that is true - and just be there if they need me.

Just - of all the people this could have happened to…it was the wrong person.

But this is life right…this is what happens…stuff happens, and then the next day comes along. Sometimes it seems so pointless. Grrr, I’ll end it there before I start questioning the meaning of life.
So that’s me.

Hoping all of you are OK out there :hugs:

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#1049

Sending strenght your way!! :hugs: :sun_with_face: :hugs: :hugs: :muscle: :hugs:

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#1050

I understand what you’re feeling.
Past is past, so keep going and even if you’re not physically at M side, you can still send him/her support with sms / calls and other gifts.
I hope your friend will be fine, and i’m sending you strenght too! :kissing_heart:

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#1051

I’m so sorry to hear this. I hope your friend will be ok. Such a sad situation. Love and strength

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#1052

:hugs: sending power to you @neeksnz, I can feel your worries almost and include you in my prayers :pray:t2: stay strong :muscle:t2:

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#1053

Did you do this postcard yourself :scream::heart_eyes::heart:

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#1054

Sending you strength, hope your friend will be OK.

Maybe J didn’t want to tell anyone because he thought it’s M’s choice to tell. These people usually stay quiet about their problems. Don’t worry about that, just be there when J needs you.

Be strong :muscle: :hugs: :pray:

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#1055

@neeksnz sorry to hear! I hope your friend will be okay…

@sforreal Yes I did :blush:

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#1056

I’m sorry I’ve been trying to keep my head down and just make it thru the days…today is gonna be a challenge…my brother would have been 33 today…and it rips my heart out to know I can’t hug him or tell him happy birthday. Instead I hide by myself because everyone else has moved on. This year I have Mike’s songs that have every emotion i hold inside. And i would give everything to just sit at his grave just me and him and listen to music…but that won’t happen… for the first time I’m gonna attempt to work on his birthday and I’m scared that I will fall apart … I just want to hide away and cry

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#1057

Oh dear @danni1317, I know you love him. He is still there watching you and he is so proud of you saving people’s lives :heart: You are the strongest person I know and I know you’ll be exceptional at your work and he’ll be so proud that you’ll feel it in your heart! :hugs: Don’t cry cause he’s still there watching you :hugs:

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#1058

Sending strength to you @danni1317 and @neeksnz! These are difficult times, but you’ve got to stay strong!

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#1059

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#1060

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The LP family :grin: :blue_heart:

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#1061

@danni1317 don’t give up! :muscle:t2: -I know it’s hard… but you will make it :hugs:

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#1062

Sending you lots of courage and strength ! Maybe you can got to listen to music at his grave just after your day of work so you have something to look which might ease a bit your day at work ?

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#1063

I hope so, that’s all I want to do! I just want to sit with him and listen to music and draw😢 but he is buried about an hour away…

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#1064

I have this pounding headache here at work and I still want to cry, I put his cologne on so I can have him with me…but I don’t know if it’s working or making me worse

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#1065

Awww @danni1317! Hugs to you. Keep the cologne on, it’s OK to grieve…4 years - probably still feels like it was yesterday. Is there somewhere close by where you two used to hang out, or annoy each other? Maybe you could go there instead, if his resting place is too far away. That may actually hold far more meaning for you and maybe help you to feel like you are closer to him. I dunno - it’s different for everyone - just an idea.
You are so brave for working on this day - and I hope you are doing OK. Just think he’ll be watching over you, making sure you make it through - he’s by your side. So, hold on to that for the day - and once your shift is over… you can let it all go.

So, thanks for all your support guys - I’m actually more worried about the girlfriend, than M. M is a typical Kiwi bloke, and will probably survive to live to 100. The gf has only been in NZ for a couple of years, and really hasn’t been able to build much of a support network. So right now, I’m just passing on all my strength to her - so that she can on-pass it to him. Surgery is in the next 24 hours, then it’s wait and see. So, we just have to wait and see. So - all the strength you have passed to me - I thank you so much for this! It’s flowing through to the place where it needs to be :smiley:
So exhausted. Oh, spoke to J as well, such a knob. He thought I already knew. So I told him off anyway. And he told me to take a flying leap into a rolling donut. We now both feel much better…lol (this is the type of relationship we have).

And you are absolutely right @mish3lka - it was M’s choice. Totally get that. But still annoyed…LOL.

And didn’t get to tell off any vendors today rory, but telling off J made up for it…HAHAHA.

OK hugs to everyone who needs hugs, esp @danni1317 who needs them right now.
I may be not around much next few days cos I gots to travel and stuff - and put my energy into my ‘brother of another mother’ :smiley:

Look after each other in the meantime aye peeps - we all do this so well! Churrrrr!

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#1066

Oh yes. I did this. This is really true. Just leave everything and go share you feelings with someone :blush:

Oh yes! So the answer was hidden here :joy: i am summarizing this thread today… Its something like 200 unread. I didn’t read this one cause this need nice concerned brain…lol… :sweat_smile:

Oh damn! This is soo awesome community! :heart_eyes::sparkles::green_heart::blue_heart: Everyone are so strong! Sending power :sparkles: and sunshine :sunny: to everyone! It makes me feels sooo proud and happy to read all the stories :smiley::tada::confetti_ball: you guys made my day! @turners34 @theearlywalker @melisLP @danni1317 @hilaryfol @chigokurosaki @ashesoftime @framos1792 @neeksnz @ mish3lka @ lilyope (can’t tag more lol) :hugs::hugs::hugs::kissing_heart: hugs to all!!

:joy::joy::joy: Oh lol! But one thing is true! We are gonna be okay :laughing:

ashesoftime ! You’ve got so cute cat! :joy::joy: It is soo funny!

Like a childish sing along! :joy::joy::sparkles:

Awww what a lovely quote! :heart_eyes::heart_eyes: This is so beautifully carved and posted to inspire the reader! Lol… I am bursting out of happiness!!! So glad to be here. And literally tbh this is the place where i belong . A place where i met my actual family :hugs::hugs::blush::blush:

That quote! :heart_eyes: “Good friends are like angels you don’t have to see them to know they are therrreeeeee!” So nice! :sunny::sparkles::blush:

You wrote that!!! Its awweeessoooommmeeeee! :smiley::smiley::sparkles:

@sforreal ? You knew here? I am seeing you for the first time… well helloooo! :smiley: Hope tou having amazing time here :sunny::sparkles:

Damn! I am downloading that pic! :smiley: That’s soooo true for my lovely family!

Oh @ danni1317 ! Don’t be upset friend. Sending you sunshines! :sunny::sunny: Everything you do will be awesome. Ok. Just don’t worry. Have faith in yourself :green_heart::blue_heart:

Oh yesss! :smiley:

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#1067

Awww, yes- yes- yes- :tada::heavy_heart_exclamation: @Honey8 is back and already summarizing :heart_eyes:- you nailed it on the point sis :sunny:- as always- and with this extra portion of love :two_hearts: that you bring in here you make this place shining bright dear :star2: :kissing_heart: and me just happy :star_struck:

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