I would dump him. It’s better to be alone than in this relationship. Cheating? Nope. And if he’s not saying that you’re his girlfriend then he just want to get the other girl. Once a cheater always a cheater. You deserve someone better. Obviously I don’t know him but I know toxic relationships. It’s bad for you.
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I agree. He doesn’t sound worth the trouble. Everyone deserves someone who is proud to say they are with you. And he cheated? Would not stay, period.
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Yeah I kind of hinted about it before but I agree with the gals…a guy will say that thinking it leaves him options… a committed guy will be proud to say you’re his girl
You’re better than that 
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Dump his ass. If he’s not even willing to correct the situation, and is basically just playing along with this friend… Then he has no respect for you, as also indicated by the way he drives like a retard with you in the car. He has no regard for your life or the lives of others, and he sure as eggs doesn’t care for you the way he should.
Of course, this is just my opinion… You need to figure out what you want from life, and what you want from a partner. And then you need to act. If he meets your needs, then good. If he doesn’t… Then either change needs to happen, or he needs to go.
You need to be strong… Even though I know it’s hard, and you have plenty of other crap to deal with. You have to do this for yourself… Cos no one else going to do it for you… And you don’t deserve to be miserable or treated like a doormat.
Hugs @hilaryfol
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I wish I could say I am. But I’m sitting here at what should be the first step to my dream job (being a nurse) completely miserable because of someone who was supposed to be my friend is now the mean girl here… so now I get to watch everyone treat me completely different when she’s around …
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Awww nuuu…don’t let this get to you.
Unfortunately some people never grow up, every workplace has a diva, and an a-hole, and well…you just can’t escape them in life. All you can do, is do your best despite them.
If the rest of them are going to be chameleons and change their colours when she’s around or not - then shame on them - they obviously lack the strength. And, it sounds like really you haven’t lost much of a friend to be fair.
There’s not much to say that can make things better for you - other than we are here, and we aren’t chameleons, and be strong - this is your dream job…concentrate on being the best you can be.
Also - next time you get a chance…spit in her coffee… 
- ok, maybe not…but the thought might cheer you up.
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That did bring a smirk! Believe me I thought of it a few times! I just hate how I just had a nurse buy me lunch and tell me how happy she was to work with me, how it was refreshing to not deal with rudeness and attitude! Which felt really good! Then that very same nurse is laughing and joking with HER the diva! The very one she had so little good to say about…which you know would be fine…but now that nurse has hardly said a few words to me all night! It’s bad enough diva got this job before I did, they passed me up for her… . A few months later I finally had my chance. This job was my idea, my secret plan to move up in my field…She didn’t even want to stay in healthcare…now she walks around here like she’s a big shot…and pretends not to know me. She treats me like I dirt and I don’t even know why! From the moment I started here she has treated me this way…and now the others seem to bend when she’s around too
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@rorybourdon I’m very happy to hear that your new year resolution is to make a new life and close a chapter in your life!!
@hilaryfol you deserve more than that… and if someone is not proud to have such a girl like you… we don’t want them!!!
@danni1317 there are some divas like you’ve described in my job. But work in silence and successful will do the rest!
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You know, I don’t think you can call this drama on here. Its definitely full of very supportive and positive people who show they care. This is my wish and dream for the rest of the world, that they may turn out like the rest of you by being considerate. Thank you for being great people.
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Just felt like posting this
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It’s such a beautiful story rory!!! <3
The lyrics are so strong. Wish you that it’ll always bring you the strength you need.
I am so happy for you! Wish you the best will last
SO TRUE! @hilaryfol I know it’s hard but you deserve better!!! The right one is waiting for you in your future life.
So ignore her if you can. But if it’s too much for you, just don’t be afraid to tell her and get it out of yourself, you’ll feel much better My sister always tells straight away - if you have something against me, don’t play games, just tell it straight to my eyes and we can be even. We either can both be friends and support each other, or we can be enemies - the second is worse for the both of us.
Hope it gets sorted out Danni.
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She’s treating you like dirt, cos you threaten her in some way.
She’s probably right too - cos you got oceans worth of compassion - something she appears to lack.
Sounds like some douches that I used to work with…they got all threatened cos I was doing so well, they were supposed to be my mentors…HA - well they decided to basically make my work life hell. Being the only girl in a male dominated role didn’t help matters - cos they’d play on that. Well - a few years on - and they still in the same job doing the same crap, and I’ve moved on to a bigger better (and much friendlier) one.
I know that you are on the same path. Don’t let this muppet distract you - you are heading towards bigger and better things! Just gotta hang in there.
Failing all that - does she bring her lunch into work (or equivalent meal)…chuck it in the freezer for her…I’m sure she’ll appreciate it.
(Yeah, I’m mean in my head…but in real life, I’m so lovely - pranks are not the answer…but really…no, no they are not… 
)
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Don’t worry. You’ll make it! Keep going. You are going right ok. Just don’t worry! 
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Hey everyone i what to thank you all for the support and it kind hard of Leaving I’ve been with hem for 16 years and it that i gone though a lot with hem. . But I’m a strong woman I know it be hard to start over.
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@danni1317 I’m so glad that everything is getting a little better with you and I wish you all the best with your dreams job being a Nurse I truly know that u be and amazing nurse. And i what u to be happy with everything you have going on in your life.
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What hurts the most is that i fall in love with the little girl and I’ve told hem that this is the only reason why I’m still friends with her and still here with hem.
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Thanks for your kind words and it so touching to see you are here for me. 
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Today I’m in physical pain. I woke up with all my fingers so painful I have problems with lifting my mug. I am not sure what happened but I woke up like that and though maybe it’s just sore and it will pass but nope.
I’m sorry 
feel better
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@rorybourdon I hope that you will feel much better soon I truly hope your pain will stop very soon
Get better soon
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