[quote=Shoegaze4u][quote=ZoeLinkingal][/quote]Our hearts are telling us, who we truly love. We can’t change our “system software”. And to claim, that this is possible, isn’t honest.
I reckon your teacher is married, maybe he has kids. How can such a lucky person, talk about things, that never happend to him? Maybe he should invite a homo and ask him about his “choices”.[/quote]
Exactly, your point is right.
I’m not sure if he is married but even so, I do not think he should have made such a claim with sexuality being a choice. Choosing who you want to be with for the sake of public appeal would be a different type of choice altogether from who you’re really attracted to and love
[quote=cctjehh]anyways all this leads me to another point, what do you think about pedophiles? I mean I think we can all agree on the fact that it’s wrong and awful etc. etc. BUT, WHAT IF you get born with an attraction to young children? I mean if you can be attracted to women, men, elderly people, why can’t you be attracted to young children?[/quote] Good point, I’ll tell you what I think of pedophiles.
The term pedophile is there because the society ranks age with terms like children, teenager, young adults etc etc. They - the society - view the rank of children as incapable of decision nor consent thus, if an adult were to engage in romantic or sexual activities with the children, the adults automatically becomes a pedophile.
I half-heartedly agree with the ranking system but the view of it would have to be changed. If the child is willing and loves the adult in a way more than a friend (they don’t HAVE to have sex, they can kiss and cuddle and go on “dates”) then I think the law or society should respect that decision. This concept will tie in with teen sex before the legal age. Again, the legal age is set by the society which alters the views on several issues. These systems are far from perfect but we don’t have much of a say.
However, I’d like to take a stand here. Being a pedophile and being attracted to young children is completely different. Now, you can’t choose who you’re attracted to, yes BUT, I’m sure you can control your urge or not. If the child doesn’t want to be sexually molested by you nor have sex with you than respect that. Those who don’t respect that are pedophiles.
If you want to masturbate in private with child porn than go ahead, we have sicker fetishes in the world don’t we? Just so your fetish does not involve a kid, does it make it anymore “right”? If you like to cuddle with a kid or kiss him/her on the lips without the sex part, and if they feel the same, then go ahead. Bath together whatever, I think it’s alright. But the law doesn’t think so. Well, that is my view on pedophiles