Dealing with this loss for anyone who is willing to listen :(

As someone who has been medicated for Bipolar II for the last 14 years, I can say without a doubt that getting the right medication is important and nothing to be ashamed of. I had to try two different types before something worked. Depression is a biological condition. We all have “down” moments but clinical depression is serious. Seeking help via counselling or medication or both doesn’t make anyone “weak” - you realize there’s a problem that is beyond your control and by confronting and acting upon it, you are taking back your life.

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I still can’t listen to a song without crying. I know of this pain Chester had. Different circumstances, but still a long life fighting depression> in my own secret way I am glad he has finally found peace. Sucks for his family, his children, his closest friends and then us, but not for him. I was supposed to see LP in Citi Field, something on my wish list, so the night of the concert I am going to sit on the couch, find a u tube concert, and hope that everyone that loved him can find some peace eventually. Mike, Dave, Brad, Joe, Rob and Chester’s children especially. You will be missed Chester, you will be missed.

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I feel the same exact way. They have marked my life since the beginning of thei journey. I am still in denial and would love to chat with someone who understands this horrible pain. You can find me on Facebook as “Hada Lovegood”.

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I agree he shouldn’t have been. :cry:

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It’s so hard to be strong knowing I will never get to se him live and the fact he’s not breathing or enjoying being with his family or bandmates I just keep crying I can’t stop . I feel like my heart is been ripped out of my chest . I wish want him back that’s all I want is for him to come back and it’s hard to know he’s not . :sob:

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I can’t even bring myself to think about Mike and the guys and Chester’s family. I’m falling apart at the seams. I’m barely keeping it together and I’ve not spoken a single word to this man. I can’t even imagine what they’re experiencing. And I think what almost makes it worse is that we all consider the guys our friends. We felt close to Chester and are hurting from his loss because he’s the voice we heard the most but I feel like they’re all my friends. I feel close to all of them so it’s like, in life when your friends are hurting you go to them and hug them and be there for them and take care of them and I have that urge to do that but I can’t act on it because they don’t actually know me.

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That’s right. We feel them so close to us like friends. That is why we are hurt. But we have to be strong for them, for us, for each other.
You know I think they know this, they know that we care about them.

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@shakitaslater90 I just want you to know that if you ever need to talk about anything I am here. Our experiences are likely very different, but I just want you to know I am here and that I’ve lived through similar trauma. I live with that fear too, it’s a constant. It never seems to ago away. This death will likely effect so many people for years to come. Some of us will never recover, but just remember that we will always have each other. You are such a beautiful poet. Those poems helped more than you can even imagine. Thank you <3

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@adriieenn if you just need to vent I am here for you. My inbox is always open. I never understood how people could be so devastated over celebrity deaths and then this happened. Unfortunately, now I understand that pain. It helps to talk and be around people who were effected and moved by their music as much as you. I remember their EP and Crawling was one of my favorites growing up. I’m so glad that you were able to see them live that is a memory I hope you cherish for years to come. We did all know him. Chester shared so much of his soul and life with us. His lyrics spoke to us. He was there for some of our darkest moments and most joyous ones as well. If you ever want to add me anywhere else please feel free. I just want to be there for as many people as I can, because I know this pain is difficult to cope with. Nobody should have to cope with this pain alone.

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Thank you so much. Writing helps me cope alot. :heart:

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I know how you feel. I was just as upset as you were, I still am. Trust me I wish he was back too. This is truly a loss I don’t think I will recover from.

Me too. Chester had a great personality, and he loved his fans. I was fortunate to have met him in 2014. The best part was hugging him. I wish I could hug him again once more.

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Wow this hit home, I too lost my brother to suicide. His anniversary is sept.12, I lost him a month before my 29th birthday. I know the feeling, I somehow survived 2 attempts myself and yet my brother and Chester did not. My family is the typical Mexican family where mental illness is not spoken about. “Your not sick, you just need to get out and socialize” I was sexually abused for years since I was about 6yrs old. In an abusive relationship cut off from everyone for almost a decade…and all this was quieted when I heard Chester’s voice.

all due respect to your and my own heritage but the typical mexican way of thinking is jacked up in many levels…men or even families have no right to brush off issues like that for the sake of them being “emotional”
Be like the harry potter sword lmao imbibe yourself with that which makes you stronger and repel the things that wear you down
its very humbling to know everyone here is open enough to share these kinds of things with everybody else…

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Exactly! Just in my 30+ years of living I have seen so many lives lost that could have been saved if they were only treated as the serious issues they really were. Drug overdoses, suicides, car accidents because they were intoxicated…so so many lives in just my dad’s side alone could have been saved. But that stigma of being weak was too great😢

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drunk driving or drinking in general! :angry:
i swear its more of a sin to family of mine for me to not drink than to have me be an actual drunk :confused:
youre not a man youre a wimp youre this or that blehhh

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I know how it feel i have somehow survive my own attempt to commit suicide 2 but i have have been thought alot and i always have dark thought in my head but as i got older i start to here chester voice in 2000 it seem his voice help me. I just miss hem

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